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There are vital ingredients to a healthy marriage. I’ve seen too many couples overcompensate with an extreme focus on a few of these ingredients to make up for the fact that they’re missing something. It’s like trying to bake scones and following the instructions perfectly, but leaving out eggs or sugar. Even if everything else is perfect, it’s still going to taste funny!
Let this recipe for a healthy marriage be a checklist to help you build the marriage of your dreams. The good news is that is that even if you’re missing some of these, you can still get them! None of these are out of your reach.
1. Laughter.
I believe that laughter is the lifeline of marriage. In good times and bad, you’ve got to be able to laugh with your spouse. A marriage with no laughter is a sign of a marriage in deep trouble. Find reasons and ways to laugh together.
2. Communication.
Between the two of us, my wife and I have higher educational qualifications in Communication and we still have to work at communicating well in our marriage (like with most things, she’s a lot better at it than me). It doesn’t come naturally for anybody! Every husband and every wife has to be intentional about being a good listener and clearly communicating. Spend more time going on walks, going on drives, going out to dinner and being in settings that promote conversation.
3. Sex.
Right now, all the guys are thinking, “Why wasn’t this number one?!” Sex is vital to a healthy marriage. It’s a God-given gift to promote oneness, intimacy, and pleasure (in addition to procreation). Make sex a priority. If things are healthy in the bedroom, everything starts getting healthier.
4. Friendships.
In to many marriages, the wife has her set of friends and the husband has his and they rarely or never connect socially. You need “couple friends” that you share together. My wife and I have always had a Small Group through our church and those relationships have been a great source of laughter, joy and encouragement for both of us.
5. Goals.
Couples shouldn’t just plan together, they should dream together. Without common goals and dreams for each other and for your family, you will be like a ship without a compass. Dream big and help each reach those dreams.
6. Celebration.
When goals are reached or milestones achieved, spouses should celebrate together! Your marriage should be full of moments of celebration. Celebrate together privately and find ways to celebrate life’s victories and moments with your extended family and friends. Even in life’s toughest seasons, there are still plenty of excuses to have a party!
7. Faith.
If these were in order of importance, Faith would easily be at the top! God invented marriage and without Him, I’m convinced that no marriage can be what He intended it to be. Pray together, study God’s Word together and allow Him to direct your paths. He is the one who can hold you together even when the world feels like it’s falling apart.
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Every married couple is going to find that they are different from one another in some ways. Perhaps she is a quick decision maker and he needs time to consider his options. Or she is a night person and he is a morning one. Maybe she hates country music and he loves it.Talk about your differences without trying to change one another. Look for ways to fill one another's wants and desires so you can live together peacefully.
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Always remember that life is long. In the heat of the moment, what feels super important will likely fade in importance as time goes by. Before you react by yelling, tossing insults or unkind words, remember that "This, too, shall pass". In fact, recent studies have shown that even the most unhappiest of couples report being very happy five years later. So don't let one unfortunate incident, difficult argument or challenging moment destroy your lifetime of happiness.
It is possible for a couple to be together, but not really be together. This is due to a lack of a sense of "true presence" in being with one another. Make a decision to not only be with your spouse physically, but in your mind and heart too. Let your spouse know you are thinking about him/her and concerned about him/her.
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All married couples have arguments, or rather fights. How you fight is the key to whether or not you will have a successful, long term marriage. Fighting fairly with respect for one another is a critical marital skill that you must learn.
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Be giving in your marriage. We're not talking presents, we're talking giving of self. It isn't right that only one of you gives to the other. Giving has to be a two-way street.
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The most significant fact you should remember is that non-verbal signals have five times the impact of verbal signals. When the verbal and the non-verbal parts of the message are congruent, the listener believes your message. If they are incongruent, usually your words are saying yes, but your body language is saying no. Remember, actions speak louder than words
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If you are upset with the lack of sex in your marriage, don't run out and buy a book and ask your spouse to read it. This could create more problems. Remember "Sex is hardly ever just about sex."
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Dr. Valentine Tatenda Zhou
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If disappointment, misunderstandings, broken promises, and hurt feelings exist in your marriage, how can you heal these hurts? It's not easy, but you need to let go of the hurts and move on. It takes a decision to release the pain and the hurt. Healing can take time, but it is essential so that you do not hold on to grudges in your marriage relationship.
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Every marriage needs help now and then, both during the good times and when things become difficult. Here are issues that impact marriages and skills to help you deal with those issues and problems in healthy ways. Remember that most problems have solutions. Don't ignore the problems and issues in your marriage. If your marriage is in trouble, get started and make the necessary changes together that will help your marriage be a successful, long lasting union.
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